When announcing a lofty new goal, we tend to overemphasize the outcome while downplaying the process. Let’s say it’s to write our first book…
To motivate ourselves to get started, we may fantasize about what the cover will look like, how awesome our book launch will be; we’ll think about how it will ultimately reach the best seller’s list, not to mention all of the praise we’ll likely receive once people’s lives are changed as a result of coming into contact with our work.
What we don’t often think about when saying we want to write a book is how, on some level, we must want to sacrifice the majority of our evenings, weekends, and Sunday-fundays to sit in isolation for hours on end over maybe a couple of years in order to put our thoughts to paper.
We must be okay with enduring almost constant uncertainty about whether or not what we’re writing will be useful, or articulate enough, or make sense, or if it will even get published.
We’re saying we want to put our work into the public domain and subject our labor of love to all manner of unfiltered criticism from people who perhaps will only skim the table of contents, or peruse a chapter or two before leaving a scathing review about all the ways we fell short.
We’re saying we don’t mind getting in front of people and talking about the work that we’ll most likely be tired of thinking about once it’s released. And we should look forward to calling in favors from friends and supporters to help spread the word and be willing to invest our own time and money into getting the word out, with no promise of reimbursement.
It’s not cynical to say we want to do all of these things when we say we want to write a book. It means we understand that there is a lengthy process in addition to the gratifying outcome.
Whether we want to be a pro athlete, have a successful marriage, raise good kids, or lose weight, we must fall in love with the process—which may include hours of daily practice, or selfless service to ungrateful recipients, or running drills, or going to therapy, or hiring professionals to help us improve and discover our blind spots.
The outcome is just the tip of the iceberg compared to the work it’s going to take to get there, and we’d be wise to factor the entire process into the equation of what success and dedication looks like. The more mentally-conditioned we are for the long haul, the more self-assured we’ll feel in reaching our goal.
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Trainer Lana Rock